Shopping - a dependence or a means of stress
Many people themselves do not notice how buying very muchNecessary in the economy of things becomes a collection of small things. Beautiful (and quite cheap!) Statuettes have an unpleasant property to assemble into huge collections. A cream, bought at sales - do not bring benefits, but harm after the expiration date. How to determine whether the shopping was caused by the already formed dependence or was still quite an adequate means of stress?
Useful and unpleasant acquisitions
For example, is not considered a luxury acquisitionSecond cream (even night) when changing seasons. It's not a secret that the skin condition directly depends on how attentive we are to its needs. In winter, to feed and moisturize, and in the summer - to dry the fatty skin - this is normal. But if the funds are two or three or even five, and there is no use for them, this is definitely a waste of money and an attempt to damp the stress by shopping, and hence dependence.
To say unequivocally what to buy to other peopleNothing is needed - it means to describe an infinitely lonely person. All of us periodically have to buy something from others - from a sweater to a beloved man to a symbolic gift to a colleague.
But the number of purchases "for others", allegedly in theirInterests should be reduced to a minimum. In extreme cases, you can allow "please" another person or take care of him, if it's a child. And even in this from an early age, try to teach the child to choose independently. At the same time - yourself to the fact that your spending is not connected with other people, so as not to be tempted to shift responsibility for shopping.
"General" purchases - a great way not onlyTo enjoy shopping, but also to show shopaholism. Monthly housewives buy washing powders and detergents, tablecloths and coasters under the hot - a lot of everything.
Alas, not uncommon and such a disguise of shopping-dependence or a means of stress. Moreover, advertising further convinces us: here, the old grater is no longer good, we need necessarily newfangled!
It is not difficult to cope with this either. Imagine the thing that you sincerely want to buy "for the home, for the family." Think about how often you will use it. How to deal with it? Will it have to be washed every time after use?
Of course, shopping is a dependency when itsWith an enviable regularity they use as the only worthy remedy for stress. But quite often things are really needed. Therefore spend the sums on the newfangled "gadgets" only after you prove to yourself the frequent use and the undoubted value of the thing. Buy it with a pure heart and enjoy it for many years.
So you will stop every time to doubt whether you are making an ill-considered purchase in favor of an inner shopaholic. By the way, the same recipe concerns the updates of the women's wardrobe.
How to actually cope with stress?
So, you already understood that shopping as a dependencyOr a means of stress - a dead-end path. Since this is undoubtedly not the best tool has its drawbacks. The main one is that no shopping can help definitively.
On the topic of treatment from mania purchases already writtenHundreds of articles. But the main thing always remains one. If your credit card does not withstand the fierce pressure of the desire to "buy more and this", and the calming of buying is short-lived - it's time to find other, less painful and more effective means of stress.
If the mania of purchases has passed to the next stage,And has become independent, it does not arise from stress, but by itself (and stress is then thought up to justify itself) is still more serious. And it is necessary to start with the fact that unwind this part of a complex, contradictory coil of motivation.
So, before you go to the store, answer yourself to the question:
- Do you want to buy because you need a thing?
- Because you feel bad, sad, sad?
- Or just because you want to buy?
For the latter case, it is worth separately allocating a small amount to easily control their lovely female whims.