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Learning to communicate with other children

How to behave in conflicts between children? We look at the situation. Maybe another child did not want to offend your child, but it happened. For example, accidentally stumbled and pushed your child. Therefore, your child needs to explain that the girl did not want or the boy did not want to offend him.

If everything was deliberate, then we sit down in front of a strangerBaby squatting and utter all the situation that occurred. "I do not like that you took the toys from Andryusha. If you want to play with his toys, you need to ask for permission. If Andryusha does not mind, he will share with you. And now I'll have to pick up the car from you, because Andrew is not happy (your child cries). " Also we explain to our child that we must ask permission from the owner of the toy. When my child wanted to play with someone else's toy, we approached another child, and I said something like this: "Andrew really would like to play with your typewriter, and he offers you his typewriter. If you do not mind, let's change. "

If someone else's child does not mind, thenExchange, but, at the first request of another child or yours, toys are returned to the owners. After all, for a child, a toy is not just some trinket, it's his personal thing, his world, which only he has the right to possess. I feel sorry for the children on the playground, which my mothers say, do not be greedy, let the little one play. By this they give their child to understand that in this world nothing belongs to him, and he can not dispose of his own things. Imagine only that if this mother were asked for earrings or a chain, because the mother is not greedy, would she have given it up? I do not think so.

If another child throws sand at all, thenWe also express our displeasure. Calmly take the child by the hand and say that you do not like when throwing sand, if you want to leave, you can, for example, leave the ball in the wall or play with another child in the ball.

When your child learns to speak, he himselfCan say that he does not like. While you are voicing. If the child is hit, then you also need to tell the offender that you do not like that he hit your child, it hurts him.

If moms knew that children under the age of 8 can notConsciously regulate their behavior and can sometimes even perform inadequate actions, they would not pour their aggression on older children. Sometimes it is enough for children that someone explains to them that in this situation he is not entirely right. Children accept the rules that adults set on the site, for example, to swing on a swing it is necessary in turn, stop the carousel, if small ask, etc. However, the upbringing of another's child should not be part of your duties, it is the duty of his parents.

In no case can you not teach your child to give change. Not everything is solved by force. It is important to teach the child to negotiate.

If the initiator of the conflict was your child, thenWe explain to our child that there are actions for which it is necessary to answer. And, that there are other adults who can express their discontent, scold, scream.

When the child is not yet able to speak and only the motherCan understand what the child wants, Mom should voice her child's desires. Children copy the behavior of parents, like a sponge absorb information from the outside world. Nobody argues with the fact that the duty of parents is to teach the child to interact with this world, to choose, to make contact, to find compromises.
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