Conflicts of preschool children
Probably, there are no such parents who would not face such a situation:
You and the child go out for a walk, go to the playground,In the sandbox, after playing, your child collects his favorite toys for a long time. At this time, a foreign child tries to take toys from your baby, or your child wants to play with other people's toys, and in return receives a scoop or worse, with sand in the eyes. On your remarks about the behavior of the child, his mother says with a sweet smile that she is raising her baby by a new method, in which it is impossible for her children to forbid anything up to five years.
And it's the other way around, your child is from a sweet angelTurns into a devil, begins to wind all the kids who are digging in the same sandbox, and you are forced to flee to the screams of indignant mothers, while promising to arrange a swelling at home for your child.
How can it be that every time a walk does not become a test of the strength of nerves?
If the child does not want to play with other children
Do not force. Each child has his own rhythm of entering a new collective for him - someone immediately becomes a ringleader, and someone first needs to look closely from afar, try to make friends cautiously, and after that can play together. Therefore, if your child drags you from the company of kids, follow him. When the time comes, he will himself be carried to the general company of the children, and you can read the book on the bench.
For the game in the team try to teach it veryCarefully, teach him by your example. For example, go to another child's child and say hello, ask him what his name is, tell this child how your baby's name is and ask permission to play with him, and if the kid does resist, do not insist on a joint game. You will set an example for your child, respecting the interests of another baby. To his crumb let him know that his interests will be taken into account, too. Initially, try to play with some children, so that your child does not come across new faces, if he is very difficult to join the team.
The basic principle - Without insisting, gradually, follow the pace of your child.
Your child broke kulichiki or took away his toys
The main thing is calmness. Look at how your child reacts to the situation first. Very often, what we perceive as unfairness does not seem to the child. Maybe this time he would like to share the toys himself. Of course, if this situation repeats itself every time and your child acts as a sponsor for the whole yard, then you need to think about why this happens. If the child can not cope with this situation on his own and the tears are already filling his eyes, take the situation into his own hands. Together with him, approach the invader, politely and calmly ask him to return or change the toy, try in his place to take another. Offer your other toy if your child needs that. If it does not help, call for his mother to help, but at the same time, refrain from reproaches, so as not to spoil your walk or your child.
Your child plays with other children, but does not want to share anything with them
And let him not share. Or maybe you are ashamed that your child will be regarded as greedy? But this is only your perception. A small child is selfish. Toys for the child are his treasure. Would you yourself have shared your coat of valuable fur or diamond jewelry? And do not select, in any case, and do not give the child's toys to play other children, even if they are younger than yours. In this case, for your child, you become a traitor. It turns out that you are on the side of someone else's invader. Instead, explain to another child that this is your favorite toy for your child, and ask him not to take this toy. Offer him another toy in return. If your child offers another child to play with their toys, be sure to praise him. He gradually realizes the "benefit" of what can be shared.
Your child is a bully and a fighter
As soon as you appear, the other mummiesCollect toys and look for a different place to walk? Do not try to walk with the child in solitary places. Maybe he's just small and does not know how to take into account the feelings and interests of others, and that's why there are constant conflicts with children. Teach your child to interact in a team. All the time comment and explain to him about what is happening. To avoid conflict between children, then as soon as you see that your child wants to arrange a fight or take away someone else's toy, immediately stop it and explain why it can not be done. Teach him to change, not take away. Apologize for yourself and teach your child to apologize if suddenly he offended someone else. If persuasion does not help, switch your kid to another occupation, play with it in another game. Explain, because of what you did. Explain to him that if he continues to behave this way, you will have to go home. But do not threaten him, but explain. Invent him an interesting game with little animals, little men, cars in the same sandbox, so that next to him he would play with other children and toys, but he was busy with his work. Children, by virtue of their preschool age, can not yet understand that they are hurting each other. Therefore, it is often necessary to explain this to them.