What if the child steals money?
Most parents in this situation beginAsk yourself the question: "Why did this happen with my child? ". Then there comes a confusion, and then a panic: "What will the familiar and close now think? ". Then comes the time of other questions and complaints to himself: "I'm a useless teacher! "Or" Punish him so that he understands everything! " "Each of the parents is experiencing a storm of emotions in this situation. But it is important how the parents will react to this situation. In general, is this the first such case, or is it just that they noticed the theft of their child for the first time?
Of course, it is very bad if a child steals money. The concepts of "thief", "theft" and "theft" are negative and inapplicable to children. Because the child's world full of fantasies and the real world for him is almost inseparable. The child can not independently understand that his act is wrong. In addition, parents should treat this situation on the basis of the child's age. For example, if the child is still very small and he is not yet five years old, his step can not be called stealing. Small people generally do not know such concepts as "my" thing or "another's". From five or six years the child will be able to understand the belonging of objects to someone. Therefore, up to five years, he can not restrain himself or his wishes. He will want to take something and he will take this thing. For him there is no such thing as the value of objects. But adults do not pay attention to this side of the situation and begin to panic that their child steals money. Interestingly, they will not be shocked if the child takes a plastic bauble without demand, and if he takes a valuable thing, they begin to scold him. For a child, these things are not interesting at all because of their value. He just followed his impulse.
In such cases, the child simply needsExplain what personal property is. You can not take personal things without permission. In addition, parents should remember that many children at a small age are selfish. They are motivated by a desire to find something or take what they want. Parents are required to accustom their child to take any things with the permission of the owner.
By the way, there are different reasons why children take away someone else's things without permission.
Seeing a new interesting toy, the child oftenFeels a burning desire to get this thing. So, waiting for an opportunity, he quietly takes the toy home. The reason for this act can be explained by the fact that children are not yet familiar with the division of things into "mine", "your" or "someone else's". You can not immediately call a child a thief. He just needs to explain that he took someone else's, but it's not good to take other people's toys. Parents should provide their explanations with a case study. To the child realized how to suffer another kid who lost his toy.
There are situations when a child takes money withoutPermission to make a gift to mom. This act is connected with the child's lack of understanding of the negative side of theft. He wanted to make his native man pleasant. However, he does not understand that he is doing the wrong thing for this. In addition, the child can present so that he "found" money. He needs to explain that the term "found" is inapplicable in this case. The money he found does not belong to him, accordingly, he can not keep them. Children from a young age should explain that "found" money or things do not become the property of the person who found them. But in real life, even parents do not always do the right thing, finding out on the street or somewhere else ownerless things or money. The child learns from the parent example. If he constantly sees that his parents take things from the office or from their neighbors, then another example is not needed.
By the way, children often steal, attracting attention. Thus, they wish to draw the attention of the elders or peers as the owner of an object.
Sometimes a child can steal because of the feeling thatHe seems to lack what his friends have. For example, now many children have money for pocket expenses. If parents do not have money for such expenses of the child, sooner or later he himself will find ways to satisfy personal needs. Adult children begin to steal consciously to gain power or control. It happens that a child steals to take revenge on someone.
How to behave if the child steals money? First, parents must first understand the reasons for what happened. Then you need to think about what led the child to this action. It is very important to carefully understand all the nuances of this act. Pay attention, whether the child brought money openly or hid them. Maybe he just wanted to pay attention to himself? Can money give him power over others?
It is important to understand if the child is feeling guilty? Having found out money, parents should express themselves unequivocally, money should be returned to the owner. That all around and loved ones, and society condemns theft.
Parents, after discovering the theft, should beStrict, but also need to feel sorry for the child. It is necessary to awaken in him a sense of shame. Then you need to help him to correct the mistake. Having discovered a negative action, parents should show tact and determination. When the child understands his guilt, it is necessary to shift the emphasis to the feelings and feelings of loved ones, as well as people who have lost money or things. It is necessary to help the child to get out of the situation without humiliation. Also, measures should be taken to recover or reimburse the damage. It is not recommended to threaten a child with a police if he refuses to admit his guilt. It is impossible to show aggression, a clear threat triggers a child into a dead end. You can not call a child insulting words and a thief. Conduct a confidential conversation with him, and not a trial. Do not talk with your child in public. If parents start behaving badly, the child will no longer trust them. Remember, stealing can become a childish demarche against family troubles and mistakes in upbringing.