Accustoming children to cleanliness
Usually their attempts to make the child clean upIs a premature statement of the fact that the crumb will not be able to cope with this duty: "Have you removed the toys?" Or "How ashamed are you to be such a slob?" Of course, such a negative statement of the question can not cause the child to consciously meet the need Wishes of parents. Rather, a sense of protest or a sense of self-imperfection.
A few important tips
1. A child always imitates adults. Therefore, the children who, from infancy, see how mother keeps order, will soon learn to keep clean.
2. It is difficult for a kid to perform daily actions that require serious effort and do not bring joy. Therefore, only joint implementation of domestic affairs will be a feasible task for the child.
3. Praise is one of the necessary components of teaching children to order. Always celebrate the child's achievements aloud, especially his independent attempts to help you. Do not criticize the child for badly cleaned bed, for the dust left in the corners of the room, or the ground on the windowsill after watering the flowers. Believe me, the child made a lot of efforts to please you and fulfill his duties. If you would like the kid to learn to do housework more carefully, just show him how to do it, or lose it in one of the ways described above.
4. Never punish a child with household chores, otherwise very soon he will bind both of these concepts together, and any task entrusted to him will be perceived as a punishment, from which he will shirk by any means.
Already in 8-9 months it is necessary to accustom the child toThe fact that every thing has its place. At this age, the kid learned to manipulate the objects and he can show how to fold the toys after the game, accompanying their actions with a detailed description.
In a year and a half a child will be happy to help you onHe likes to imitate the behavior of his parents. While cleaning, offer the baby to collect their toys, hold on to the vacuum cleaner and wipe your table with a cloth. Playing with a one-year-old child, for example, in preparing a dinner, include in the game the cleaning of dishes: "wash" it and put it back, commenting that it is not good to leave a dirty table after yourself.
In a year and a half the baby can follow the instructionsAdult, if you want to put something in place or remove something in the drawer of the table. So you not only teach the child the skills of accuracy, but also practice his thinking processes and memory. If the baby has done the work assigned to him, be sure to praise him. But do not be surprised if you soon find things you need in the most inappropriate places. Do not blame the child for this: most likely, he decided to help you and remove what, in his opinion, is not in place. Just explain to him that the socks should be in the drawer, and the food in the kitchen. By two years, undressing the child, give him a highchair to help him put on his clothes. Show how you do it, ask him to fold his socks or pantyhose on his own. Do not forget to repeat that every thing has a house: shoes and a jacket live in the corridor, and a dress or shorts fall asleep only on the stool. Let the kid help you around the house, do not push him away if he tries to take a broom out of your hands or wants to wash the dishes with you. Having stumbled a couple of times on the cry of the mother, the baby will stop offering you help. Of course, he is not likely to wash the cup well or to wipe the table, but remember that the skill is being instilled gradually - it will take a little time and you will see how cleverly he copes with his tasks.
The three-year-old baby can already be rightfully consideredMother's assistant. He can be entrusted with performing such important household tasks as dusting or watering flowers. He will also be proud if you let him put shoes in the corridor, wipe the windowsill. In three years, you can teach a child to wash her panties and socks. Be prepared for the fact that you have to re-wash them, but do it when the kid does not see it: it is important for him to know that you trust him "adult" affairs.
In three years the child will be happy to observe the actions of the pope, so connect it to the educational process.
Help your children to order your imagination: Write stories where the two main characters fall into various alterations. And one of them - an exact copy of your baby, and the second reflects the desired behavior, which you want to achieve from the child. Let the second hero come out the winner, let him get to cope with various obstacles on the way to the cherished goal, and the first, faced with problems, understands the need to change and learn to be more accurate, clean, organized.
After three years, the kid already knows that from himIt takes. But the child himself is unlikely to take an order every evening, clean up things and wash the dishes after eating. Partly because the preschooler is still in poor control of his volitional efforts, in part because of his enthusiasm for the game and evening fatigue.
Therefore, there are various ways to "remind"To the kid about his duties. The smaller the child, the more important it is for the parent to be with him, help and gently control his actions. Joint cleaning will bring the child joy, a sense of fullness in the family, and will also provide an opportunity to observe the actions of an adult.
The kid can hardly hold in his head a wholeA set of necessary actions, especially not very interesting and not giving him joy. He can decide that toys, picturesquely arranged throughout the room, look very attractive and create coziness, or consider that it is much more important now to finish playing, to watch the cartoon, etc. Therefore, be indulgent: do not force the child to leave when he is involved in something, or to demand to dismantle the castle, which he built with great difficulty.
Instead of annoying shouting, hang around the houseCheerful drawings that will help the child remember the need to hang his things on the stool, put the dishes in the sink, clean the teeth before going to sleep. As a reminder you can use any toy. Take her in your hand, call her baby on her behalf and ask if he did everything, did not forget something important before going to sleep.
Come up with exciting games and remember whatThe older the child, the more intricate the game should be. For example, arrange with the child that as soon as the bell rings, it's time to finish the game and clean up the toys, and when he hears the drum roll, it's time to go to the bath.
Children 3-4 years can offer to lay allToys to sleep, but keep in mind that this occupation will take a lot of time. Older children will like to retire on speed, if, for example, you count out the seconds out loud, and then enter the results in the table.
The kid will like to temporarily perform the roleParent, if you at this time will play a naughty child. Let him give directions, where and what to clean, urges you, gets angry. Give him time to find an approach to you, pick up the necessary words to make the "child" obey, reassure him. And when he himself is diluted or refuses to clean up anything with himself, recall how hard it was for him to act as a parent. You'll see, he will definitely meet you.
Older children will happily stickThe pros to the "Order Card", and at the end of the week will be waiting for some kind of surprise for their achievements. It is worth stipulating in advance that these will not be very expensive gifts, and even better, if it will be any joint trips with parents or a dinner with the family.
Also older children will want to clean up with themselvesThings, if one day they come into the room and do not find the most expensive of them. You can hide them, and the child can leave a coded letter describing where they can find their things. Children over the age of 6 value their personal space very much, they have their own secrets, so they are unlikely to like it, that parents take their "treasures", and most likely will find the opportunity to remove them before you decide to use it again .