Children and school
One day, one is not a beautiful day, ourSchoolboy with tears in his eyes reports "" I will not go to school anymore! ". You are at a loss, the child sobs and flatly refuses to get ready for school. What is the reason?
Explanations to that can be a great variety - fromFear to remain alone, without the support of parents, to conflict with their classmates and teachers. But the most common reason for the unwillingness of children to go to school is that they are in an unfamiliar environment, can not adapt to it, find their place in a new team.
Hence the frequent consequence is their fearBefore attending school, children stubbornly refuse to go there. Here. First of all, it is necessary to find out the real reason for the refusal. But, in any case, in no case should the child be allowed to stay at home. Even if the reasons why he does not want to attend school are real and objective. His fear will only be strengthened, and it may be added to the backlog of the program, which is highly undesirable.
You must be firm and persevering in your quest to bring your child back to the school's classroom. A child, especially a small child, does not haveMotivation that would justify attending school. Children go to school, obeying their parents. Therefore, in case of unwillingness to go to school, it is parents who must explain the need for her visit. A child of preschool age needs to explain that there he will be able to learn a lot of new and interesting things. Older children can be explained that without education, the road to the future will be closed to them, or refer to the law, according to which all children are required to receive at least a basic education.
Certainly, parents should from time to timeGo to the school in which their child learns. In the power of parents to inspire the child with sympathy for the teacher. You can quite tell him that you personally are very sympathetic to his mentor. Children tend to reciprocate for good feelings. If they are confident in the location of the teacher, it will help them overcome the barrier that arises in their communication with the new person.
While your child is small, do not leave it in theSchool yard, take him to class, let him meet the teacher. Over time, a negative reaction to the school will subside. Be sure to ask the teacher how he behaves after you leave. If his tears stop immediately after you disappear from the field of vision, you can stop worrying - the adaptation was successful.
But it also happens that they refuse to go to schoolChildren, who for several years willingly visited her. In this case, a heart-to-heart conversation is inevitable. You need to find out what is bothering the child. This will not hurt the conversation with the teacher. An attentive teacher will certainly notice something wrong and will share with you his thoughts about the reason for your child's unwillingness to go to school. There can be anything you like - both poor progress in subjects, and conflict between students, and first love. There are countless varieties. Equally important is the home environment. Family troubles, divorce of parents, death of someone close - all this reflects on the ability and desire of the child to learn. Be sure to tell him the whole truth - a lie can only aggravate the situation. Explain that family affairs are one thing, and study is quite another, that you will certainly cope with difficulties, and the best thing that he can do in a difficult moment for the family is to relieve you of anxiety about his academic performance.
However, parents should know: How well and with what pleasure your child learns, depends not only on his intellect. The attitude of parents to his teacher largely determines the school's successes of the child. After all, this person has a lot to learn from him, the child's mood in the school, his desire to learn, will depend on him.
Never and under no circumstances willAllow yourself to disparaging reviews about your child's mentor. Try to establish warm relations with teachers, seek mutual understanding with them. In the end, they want the same thing as you do - so that your child becomes a well-educated person. Show understanding in relation to your child's teachers. You know how difficult it is to be fair and discipline, even dealing with two children, and in the classroom there are not two, and not even four, but much more.
The child will be easier to take criticism from the mouthTeacher, if he will know that you respect him and react positively to him. Children always pay great attention to criticism from a person they like, and try to change their behavior.
Teachers are also people. They will understand the parental criticism with great understanding if they see that they are treated with friendliness and without prejudice. Try to objectively relate to the stories of your children - they tend to blacken the "unjust teacher" and whitewash themselves - "innocent victim". Strive to understand and find the truth. As a rule, it is somewhere in the middle. Be friendly, compliant, try not to make claims in an aggressive manner, it's better to veil your feelings, expressing demands in the form of wishes and requests. Often praise the teacher, thank him for the wonderful teaching. Say that your child is delighted with the methods of presenting the material - all this will flatter him and set him on a benevolent attitude to you and your child. And in fact, because such a nice people a child can not be sloven, right? With a good attitude, the teacher will go to meet you.